Warning: If you're hormonal, or just human, this will probably make you cry.
Since actually having a baby, I realized that statement is roughly equivalent to saying "a nuclear warhead causes some damage." The reality is that having a baby changes things that you didn't even know were things. Having a baby changes everything and then some. Having a baby changes YOU.
Little Pants definitely changed me - and I like to think it's for the better. He's shown me an amount and kind of love that I had never experienced before. I'm kind of obsessed with him.
But with Little Pants came some less welcome changes: a lack of sleep, a lack of time, a sense of total cluelessness, new frustrations and a new body. People had told me that having a baby will strain on a relationship, and I thought I was ready. But I definitely wasn't. The less welcome changes got to me, and my marriage.
Sexy Pants and I have a fantastic relationship - we enjoy spending time with one another, we complement each other in all the right ways, and we communicate really well. However, when Little Pants arrived, it's like all these things went out the window. And I hate it.
I may get some flack for this, but in order of priority, my relationships go: God, husband, baby, family, friends. I am madly in love with Little Pants, but the reality is that someday he will have a family of his own and he will have a wife that he hopefully prioritizes over me. Sexy Pants has been with me prior to Little Pants, and he'll be there after, so taking care of my relationship with my husband is extremely important to me. So my third goal is to work on becoming a better wife to my husband.
The wife tips section of my blog will be focused on ways to improve your relationship with your spouse or partner. This will include date ideas, communication tips, little gift ideas, and ways to celebrate and love your significant other. And, maybe if we're lucky, our spouses will get the hint and reciprocate! ;)
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